Relationships
Invest in the people who make your life rich.
Relationships covers the people closest to you: your partner, family, friends, and community. The OLV Assessment looks at two signs of strong connection.
The first is focused, phone-down time with someone you love, such as a real conversation, a meal together, or a walk. The second is your support circle: how many people would show up for you tonight, no questions asked.
Why it matters
A review of 148 studies with more than 300,000 people found that people with stronger social relationships had a 50% greater likelihood of survival over the study periods.
About 1 in 2 U.S. adults reported experiencing loneliness, even before the COVID-19 pandemic.
Quick self-check
- On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you with your Relationships right now?
- In the last 7 days, how many days did you spend focused, phone-down time with someone you love?
- If you needed help tonight, how many people could you call?
If you had phone-down time on 3 days or fewer, or you could call 2 people or fewer, start with the quick wins below.
Ideas to level up
Quick wins (this week)
- Put your phone in another room during dinner 3 nights this week.
- Text 3 friends today to tell them you're thinking of them.
- Ask your partner or a family member, "What's one thing I could do this week that would make you feel loved?" Then do it.
90-day moves
- Plan a phone-down date night twice a month.
- Set a standing weekly call with a parent, sibling, or old friend.
- Join a group that meets regularly, such as a class, team, small group, or club.
- Take the free 5 Love Languages quiz with your partner and talk through your results.
Big-vision goals
- Grow your support circle to 5 people by investing in 2 friendships on purpose this year.
- Start a yearly trip or tradition with the people who matter most.
Sample SMART goals
- Plan a phone-down date night with my partner twice a month through June 30.
- Call one friend or family member every Sunday for 12 weeks.
- Host one dinner for friends each month from November through February.
Resources
Love Life
Matthew Hussey
Practical advice on confidence, dating, and building the relationship you want.
BookThe Way of the Superior Man
David Deida
A classic on purpose, presence, and intimacy in relationships.
BookThe Queen's Code
Alison Armstrong
A story-based guide to understanding men and building partnership.
BookThe Good Life
Robert Waldinger, MD & Marc Schulz, PhD
Lessons from the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has followed people for more than 80 years.
PodcastStephan Speaks
Stephan Labossiere
Straight talk on healing, trust, and choosing the right partner.
Coach and authorTony Gaskins
Tony Gaskins
Books and coaching on love, relationships, and purpose.
PodcastWhere Should We Begin?
Esther Perel
Real couples therapy sessions that show how to talk through hard topics.
App (free)Gottman Card Decks
The Gottman Institute
Conversation prompts that help couples get closer, based on decades of research.
Free quizThe 5 Love Languages Quiz
Gary Chapman
Learn how you and your people give and receive love.
Your next move
Take the free OLV Snapshot. Answer 14 quick questions in about 3 minutes and see your whole wheel, including your Relationships score.
Want a coach in your corner? Book an OLV Vibe Session: a 60-minute 1:1 Google Meet session with Stacey Berger, plus OLV Digital, a printed 24x36 poster, and a 30-day check-in. $297, or $197 at the founding price.
Founding prices apply to the first 100 buyers or through Jan 31, 2027.